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And Speaking of Children.

A friend once shared this unsettling occurrence he had sometime ago. He had gone to Wal-Mart to do some shopping. As he was walking, he encountered this little boy coming down the isle. My friend says he put his hand on top of the little boy's head and gently ruffled his hair, and said, "Hi there little guy!" The little boy ran away from him screaming to his mom that the man had "touched him!" My friend couldn't believe it and just kept walking straight ahead.

Another friend of mine shared this story:

Her elderly grandmother was at K-Mart, when she saw a little girl crying for her mother because she couldn't find her. My friend's grandmother took her by the hand and started leading her to the front counter so the employee could inform the mother, through the microphone that her little girl was there. My friend's grandmother never reached the front counter, because the mother suddenly appeared and accused her of trying to kidnap her daughter. The frightened grandmother explained that she was only taking the little girl to the employee at the front counter to help reunite them both again.

How sad that things have gone this far. I realize there are a lot of dangerous people out there, but I do believe those days have finally come, where one will never try to help some child, for fear of being accused of some atrocity.



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Jan. 27th, 2006 05:59 pm (UTC)
These parents have obviously taught their children not to trust strangers. So, why not keep a much closer vigil on them when in public places?

Exactly, where the hell were they!
Jan. 27th, 2006 05:24 pm (UTC)
Yes, I fully agree. It is too the point where people are becoming afraid to get very involved with anyone else. Specially kids. And if any physical "touching" is involved. It is too easy for someone to say something wrong or to interpret something incorrectly.

Unfortunately, we are at that point now.

A few months ago, I happened across a young lady stopped at a stop sign and something was wrong with her car. No one else was around. I stopped and talked with her. She needed to contact her husband but didn't have a cell phone. She asked me to call her husband, but I loaned her my phone and had her call him. I wasn't going to call him and have him envision I was doing something wrong with her. At least in this case, she was able to make the contact for her husband to come help and get her. I stayed until he got there. Not all cases will be like this.
Jan. 27th, 2006 06:14 pm (UTC)
My friend still shudder by the memory of that day.

How very nice of you to stop and help that lady, and you did the right thing to have her call her husband.

Again, another unpleasant happening comes to my mind.

This lady heard horrible cries for help, coming from her neighbor. The husband was beating the hell out of her. The lady called the police and when the police the woman who was screaming bloody murder told the police that there was not a problem, so they left.

The woman and her husband hate the lady who made the call, and every time they see her, they call her a busy body!

Go figure!
Jan. 27th, 2006 07:26 pm (UTC)
That is not unusual in domestic violence situations. But unfortunately, this country is soooo lawsuit happy that people don't want to get involved. Add to that the "molestation" charges that happen too. It is a different world now. Females have to be able to protect themselves and their children now and not rely on assistance from unknown males. Not good, but that is the way it is.
Jan. 30th, 2006 01:28 am (UTC)
It's just become to dangerous for those who would have like to help.

Can you imagine what the outcome would have been, had the little old lady been a little old man instead, walking the little girl to the front employee counter, then having the hysterical mother accuse him of trying to kidnap her little girl? How frightening!
Jan. 27th, 2006 11:55 pm (UTC)
Yes, I know what you mean. I notice when sitting in the food court in the mall..... little kids walk by and smile and even wave, and most of us older people love to wave back and say hello to them, even converse with them.......... but never know what their parents have taught them about strangers.
Jan. 28th, 2006 05:10 pm (UTC)
There have been many times where I see a mom with a little child, and have wanted to tell her how beautiful her baby is, but I refrain from it, for fear of how she may react. It's sad it's come to this, but I guess I don't blame the parent for being fearful.
Hugs Sweety Pie, and hope you and your wife have a great day!
Jan. 28th, 2006 12:33 am (UTC)
That's why I don't speak.
Jan. 28th, 2006 05:11 pm (UTC)
Re: -
I'm not going to either, that's for sure!
Hugs Sweety Pie!
Jan. 28th, 2006 03:22 am (UTC)
that's the reason god created condoms!
Jan. 28th, 2006 05:15 pm (UTC)
I'm going to take that little body of yours and put it in a condom, blow it up like a balloon, and play with it!

Just be careful not to bust it with that little hat of yours with the horns!
Huggy smoooooches!
Jan. 28th, 2006 08:50 pm (UTC)
~hugs ya tight~ that would be fun!
Jan. 29th, 2006 04:18 pm (UTC)
what about something like this?

nsfw link http://www.extremerestraints.com/stat/st985.html

there are other companies tha have them cheaper, but this has good pix!
Jan. 29th, 2006 08:45 pm (UTC)
Nay! My little Poopsy Woopsy!
I think this one is perfect and it only cost me a quarter!
Look how adorable you look!

Hmmm...let me help you put it on and it tuck it in a little closer to your little body...

Wiggle, wiggle...Now come here to Mama and let me see it it's a fit!
Jan. 30th, 2006 12:06 am (UTC)
lol, that's a cute GIF!
Jan. 28th, 2006 07:58 am (UTC)
Pathetic breeders. Can't even watch their own children and when someone does something to help them out they can't even recognize it. They should mind their crotch droppings just a little bit closer.
Jan. 28th, 2006 05:28 pm (UTC)
They HAVE to keep a closer watch on their kids!
Jan. 28th, 2006 02:06 pm (UTC)
It is true, things have gone too far,m but I believe the problem iswithin hysterical parents who do not know how to respond to things as it is teaching their children nothing but fear instead of how to be strong.

The sheep raise sheep and try to make money off the wolves and guard dogs...
Jan. 28th, 2006 05:27 pm (UTC)
I feel sorry for parents. How sad that there are people who prey on little children. I don't know if there have always been people like that or if it's something that has recently happened. I never new evil people of that kind existed, that have a thing for children, until I got my computer and surfed around, and since I joined the "Amber Alert" and placed it on my web site.

It's sad that those of us who really love children, can't tell the mother how beautiful her baby is.

It's just like Halloween, children can't go out trick or treating anymore because there are some who want to harm them. Halloween has always been for children, but not anymore.

I don't know, but I found it frightful for the two people I wrote about in this entry. They are as kind of people as can be, and they may have been in hot water, just because one wanted to reunite the child with her mother, and the other one, because he gave a little tossed the little boys hair. How sad.
Jan. 29th, 2006 01:47 pm (UTC)
It is sad, a very sad state of culture, but it has been around as long as I can remember. I grew up in NYC, in a bad neighborhood to boot, so my "innocense" never had a chance. I describe my childhood with fondness only to watch the shocked stares of the others around me, wondering how me and my friends survived (some did not). I had childhood friends disappear, I saw a newspaper every day that had kidnapping, rape and horror in it, many of us were threatened with all of this on a monthly basis.
But we survived, I survived, I "escaped" the city never to return (well, okay, except for the museums, zoos and visiting some beloved relatives, but never to live there, ever again) and now I do teach my son to be strong, to fight back, to be able to assess a situation as dangerous or not, but I do not teach him this sort of dread and fear as it serves no real purpose.
If the people stood up to criminals, if everyone had the fortitude and courage to face those who would abuse us, it would be a different world, maybe not better, but I believe our children would be safer.
The more we act like victims, the more likely we will be victimized. The more we fear, the more we destroy our own culture and society. being afraid of asking for help or accepting help from someone who is kindly errodes the cohesivness of our society, but for most there is only the fear and that is a very sad thing.
What is happening to children now was happening many years agho, it was just considered poor taste to publicise it, to sensationalize it in our news and literature. Now it is used for advertising space and "hot" stories that will make watchers keep tuned or buy the magazine, buy the paper, check out the web site. Our media abuses us for advertising dollars and then claims to be serving us. In a way they do, but it would serve us better if they told us to be strong, to be brave, to fight the good fight but they do not do this. Why?
Ah, I am afraid this whole thing has hit on a soap-box topic for me, one I can rant about for hours. i am sorry Lovely lady, i do not mean to go on so much. When I was a child, no one was there for me when i was being hurtand whne I was in actual danger. Now they just want to use us and our children for a "scoop", not because they care. i am not sure which is worse, but i am trying to be part of the solution with how i raise my own child, what organizations I do support and how i help to patrol my own neighborhood and how I train to protect my family.
You are a sweet and kind person and it stuns me how much you do for others, how you take it upon yourself to help and reach out, the world needs more of you my Dear lady, much more. I am more of a defender though my wife has more of your direct, handfs-on ability and capacity for helping others, so I watch her back and help her do her thing. I admire your need to help those in need of help.
Jan. 28th, 2006 07:17 pm (UTC)
I would never help a child in a store. I might point them out to an employee and that's about it. With all the news stories about children these days and how you can be accused of molesting them for almost any reason I want nothing to do with them. Even with friends and family I pretty much ignore the children as much as possible. It's just not worth it to get involved these days. It's sad, but that's the way it is.

I had a relative who's girlfriend got mad at him and accused him of molesting her four year old daughter. He had to spend $40,000 on lawyers and court costs, but he was cleared of the charges. It also cleared out his life savings. The idiot went back to that woman after all of this happened!
Jan. 28th, 2006 08:50 pm (UTC)
Yes, that is the fastest and safest manner of helping a lost child.

I’ve seen some children with a little harness, much like the ones one puts on a pet. I think all parents should do the same, to make sure their child is CONSTANTLY at arms reach.

How dreadful that your relative was accused of something so ghastly by the girlfriend. Bitches like her are the ones who make it so dangerous for children. Her behavior should have landed her directly in jail for lying like that. What makes it all the more astonishing and indefensible, is that the fool took her back!

Forgive me to reacting in such a brutal way towards your relative, but it’s impossible for me to react in any other way.

Otherwise, hugs and smooches heading your way!
Jan. 29th, 2006 07:35 pm (UTC)
No, it's fine...we all hate the bitch. Another scary thing is that her last husband died under very mysterious circumstances. If he was smart he would run.
Jan. 28th, 2006 09:21 pm (UTC)
I can't stand the little bastards!
Jan. 28th, 2006 11:22 pm (UTC)
Awe, most children are little angels.
This little I girl I speak of had an
attitude that I'm sure she got from
mama duck!
Jan. 29th, 2006 05:08 pm (UTC)
As a pathetic breeder who has sqeezed a few out...
I'd have to say that people - ALL - of them need to evaluate what they themselves would do in such a situation. I might be too harsh about this, butfinger pointing wont help.

We can't be pissy b/c kids are around and we can't be pissy b/c those how haven't had children, dont know what to do when they encounter them.

We all basically know not to touch a fucking car that LOOKS like it has been jacked, right?

we all know that if a dog is barking, mad as shit and not with a tag, we call animal control people - for that animals safety and our own.

JUST b/c you are a grown ass adult and you don't have kids, doesn't mean you aren't responsible for who you are and the actions you take. YES, you are aware of the posibility in having contact with kids - especially in a desperate, fearful, panicky, chaotic, stressful situation, such as a lost child, a hurt child or a hurt parent.

Somehow many people know that it can be misinterpreted as rude and intrusive, when they touch things or people that do not belong to them. THIS DOES NOT OBSOLVE YOU OF A BASIC HUMAN RESPONSIBILITY TO KNOW WHEN TO REACT. Can half you commentors really just look away? walk away?

The smart and logical thing to do, b/c - yes, we all in this society have made our own situation so shitty - is to pretty much pull our heads out of our asses and realize that children will be out in public sometimes and we have to react accordingly.

one of your commentors has the safe and right idea. You see a problem and you direct help to it or you direct the trouble to where help is.

Yes, I know this is the internets, but some of these comments where so disturbing. No one know what another person goes through until they are in that persons shoes.

you may not have humans with you, but you do have pets. I dont know if you have ever lost one, but it's not something that a person who hasn't been through, should judge.

I have yet to lose a child. This terrifys me. People are STUPID and yes I will say it X3 - STUPID, STUPID, STUPID. I am responsible for my offspring til thy are 18, right? Does it ever occure to anyone that from birth til that age that the person is growing and learning? Exploratioin, manipulation, EXPERIENCE is apart of our growth. I wonder if any of the commentors has ever remembered being lost as a child? Did you go off to explore? Have you ever talked to other kids and you guys decide to go look at toys in another aisle? Have any of you been pouting and you go hide somewhere?

Doing what is right may not always be popluar, but being popular isin't always right.

We can find ways of being socially responsible, we really can. Just b/c we have or don't have kids doesn't mean we shouldn't learn how to be around them.
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