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MARRIAGE, INFIDELITY AND KISS AND TELL



I have a big problem with infidelity among both men and women, and if it’s true from what I read somewhere that 60% of men and 40% of women have committed adultery, then I have no faith in the institution of marriage, and want nothing to do with it.

If I were married and found my husband cheating on me, I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life asking questions, much less try to save the marriage! I’d divorce him IMMEDIATELY!

Just when I start letting my guard down and start giving thoughts to perhaps marrying someday, I encounter something like this that totally destroys my faith in the sanctity of marriage:

Deborah Palfrey Washington Madam, who has at least 15,000 people in her little black book who have been unfaithful!

By and by, I also find it dispicable for this Palfrey woman to kiss and tell, just to try and save her own hid!

I also found these two links interesting:

The Secret Lives of Wives

Brilliant men always betray their wives



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mehen
May. 2nd, 2007 10:15 pm (UTC)
Numbers don't lie they say but remember people can and do. I have faith in finding someone that believes as I do, that if you love your partner, care for them, there is no reason or need to cheat. I keep one golden rule: I may break up with someone(it happens) but I never break up with someone for someone else.

*hugs*
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 06:27 pm (UTC)
I like your golden rule. But I can't help but ask myself if the person I was to choose, will later start cheating on me, as I've personally been aware of so many cheating on their spouse.
ninjaguydan
May. 2nd, 2007 10:20 pm (UTC)
Til Death do you part used to mean at least 5 years...
it's a complicated issue...alot of couples simply grow tired of fucking each other, but still have strong emotional attachments (and kids) together.

the problem is we live too long. Once upon a tiem a young man got married to the first girl who said yes, then he was shipped off to a war and killed...or the husband usually dropped dead at 40 (due to the lack of knowledge about health and heart attacks), so "til death do you part" really meant 5-10 years of wedded bliss, if junior doesn't get clipped in a war.

the idea of one person forever is romantic, but not realistic. cause forever is a really long time. No matter who you get paired off with, you're gonna tire of him eventually. Now with the advent of viagra, old men who would once settle for the ever decaying wives cause they couldn't get it up, now you have old men running around like they were frat boys (and irritating young trophy wives ever since cause now grandpa wants a piece of ass now)...

the point is to have some fun with the person your with, if you grow tired of each other then make it an amicable split cause nothing causes more tension than the desirte to fuck other people. You shouldn't hold back on fun experiences just because of what might happen in the future.


of course this comes from a guy who never seemed to keep a woman aorund longer than a month, so please take advice with salt...

-P
moon_shine
May. 2nd, 2007 11:16 pm (UTC)
Re: Til Death do you part used to mean at least 5 years...
"The idea of one person forever is romantic, but not realistic."

oh yes it is some people just have more character then others that is all and you don't hear about the good marriages only the bad, but they are out there.
and marriages are not always going to be all fun. it takes work I think most people now days just don't want to work at it, but there are still a lot that do. and being faithful is easy you just do not cheat on someone you love.
dirtywhiteboi
May. 2nd, 2007 10:34 pm (UTC)
I've never understood how some people will stay with someone who cheated on them. You know damn well you could never trust that person again. I also think its equally retarded when someone will cheat with someone, and dump who they were with and the person they cheated with actually thinks this person will never cheat on them! Why would you ever date a cheater???

dirt
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 06:22 pm (UTC)
I will never understand it, either. If a person is caught cheating once, you have to ask yourself how many times has this person cheated before?
daddy
May. 2nd, 2007 10:52 pm (UTC)
little one, do not cast doubt on the sanctity of Marrage, it is still good and just its humans that have gone to hell in a hand basket, and mind yoyu its ot all of them though. My Grandparents were married for 74 years and neither ever cheated, they were in love till the end. There are some still out there that believe in honesty and fidelity.

Love is like the well of friendship, as long as you give something back to the well, there is always refreshing water that can be pulled from it but when that well is forgotten and only water is taken out it will eventually dry up and the one who needed and wanted that well to last forever will have to find water elsewhere when it does dry up.

The magic comes when two who share the same heart beat come together that well flourishes so much that it runs over and never goes dry because when one dips into it the other always replaces what is taken out and then some.

Some might read this and call me a mindless philosopher and a dreamer, but that is ok because I have seen that magic, I know it exists, for I know many that found that blessed "Gift of the Magi"

Besides Life is way too short and precious not to have dreams.
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 10:53 pm (UTC)
So many cheaters. I'd be terrified I choose one of them without realizing it, until it would be too late.
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cris_nicewelts
May. 2nd, 2007 11:05 pm (UTC)
Dispicable?
SHe is not dispicable. IT IS A BUSINESS. People want to let her head role and she has too many strong ties, not to tug at.

It is just as dispicable to watch in hiding as a person goes down in flamer for which plenty have had a hand or a DICK in.
Re: Dispicable? - playgirl - May. 3rd, 2007 11:17 pm (UTC) - Expand
Re: Dispicable? - cris_nicewelts - May. 3rd, 2007 11:26 pm (UTC) - Expand
immortalita
May. 2nd, 2007 11:31 pm (UTC)
If someone were to try and destroy your life, you would retaliate with what weapons you could.
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 10:37 pm (UTC)
I feel kissing and telling is not the way to do it. Besides, I feel she's placed herself in a possibly dangerous position.
nahele_101
May. 2nd, 2007 11:58 pm (UTC)
well, i'm anti-cheating, BUT i'm anti-monogamy.

I don't need or demand monogamy from my partners, just I expect it to not be expected of me. I'm upfront about the fact that i WILL be sleeping with people other then YOU, and that its ok with YOU do DO THE SAME.

If someone was to sleep with someone else and NOT tell me, that is when I would have a problem. Being able to tell your partner that you love that you love them but are also interested in another person basically allows for communication in almost any subject.

I believe MANY people have the capacity for love of many people. I don't believe in limiting the human experience of love and sexuality to a single person.

I know monogamy is the NORM, but its not for me. I have been this way since I was wee' lil' in the dating scene (15 years old) when I realized I had feelings for TWO, seperate women. both of them brought out different characteristics in me and I adored them both for different reasons. I didn't discover until about six years ago the concept of non-monogamy until a girl who I deeply loved said to me "forrest, I love you but, I am wanting to date other people AND still date you..."

Its not for most people, but its worked for me.

just be upfront with people.
gingerkat
May. 3rd, 2007 12:54 am (UTC)
I agree. However, I do believe that monogamy works better for some people than others. It doesn't work for me. I've cheated when I was young and stupid, and it didn't mean I didn't love the person I was with. I did love them. But I don't like lying, and I don't like hurting people. That is wrong in any type of relationship.

My life partner and I sleep with other people occasionally. We've had relationships with others. We are completely honest and open with one another. I don't have to worry about him cheating. I know if he is sleeping with someone else. I'd probably meet her first. I also know that he loves me, and wants to be with me. Of course we have safe sex. I would never risk bringing something home to him, nor him to me.

We are very devoted to one another. It doesn't work for everyone, and it takes a whole lot of communication and compromise. But any relationship takes work to keep it alive.
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droid_1
May. 3rd, 2007 12:53 am (UTC)
Brilliant men do not always betray their wives. It depends on how much they love their wives. Or how comitted they are.

But, yet, I think logically that the institution of marriage is unsound and goes against the grain of evolution and biological imperative. Yet, I am married.
Have been four times. A glutton for punishment, I am.
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 11:05 pm (UTC)
I hope this 4th time around found you happiness!
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axl12
May. 3rd, 2007 07:35 am (UTC)
this is why I don't believe in marriage
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 10:39 pm (UTC)
I can understand why!
davev1968
May. 3rd, 2007 12:09 pm (UTC)
It's due to an incomplete sexual revolution, a double standard, choosing poorly, and being narcissistic and shallow.

Choose well, be honest, and look deep and all will be well.
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 11:00 pm (UTC)
I feel marriage is the most important step a person can make in life, yet when marriage occurs, the two envolved take it so lightly, almost as if it were just a game.

I could never take the chance.
a_phoenix
May. 3rd, 2007 03:07 pm (UTC)
First of all, it is not the fault of "marriage". Marriage is like many other things, it is exactly what the people involved make it to be.

Don't penalize yourself because of other peoples' actions.
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 10:51 pm (UTC)
From what I've seen, I don't believe I could ever trust.
(no subject) - moon_shine - May. 7th, 2007 05:42 am (UTC) - Expand
mehen
May. 3rd, 2007 07:04 pm (UTC)
If is a big word. It comes down to trust and remembering you can only control yourself and your actions, not the actions of others. Your fears are nature, we all have them. if you choose someone, make sure they understand your fears. If they love and care for you(which they should), they'll go out of their way to make sure it never happens. However, no one can guarentee anything if you don't take the chance to try. Don't let your fear hold you back.
playgirl
May. 3rd, 2007 11:35 pm (UTC)
It comes down to trust and remembering you can only control yourself and your actions, not the actions of others.

There is where the problem is. If I were to ever get married, I KNOW I could control my actions, but the question is, can the one I choose to marry, control his? This why I could never take the chance.

There's just too much cheating going around!
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