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Nov. 21st, 2006


What in the world has happened to us? When did trying to help a child who is lost, become such a dangerous thing for adults trying to help?

About a year ago, I gave this TRUE example:

This elderly lady told me this story that had happened to her. This lady is most respectable, and has grown children and grand children.

She was shopping with her daughter at a K-Mart store. Suddenly she heard this little girl crying because she couldn’t find her mother. The elderly lady took her by the hand, and started going with her to the front counter, so the clerk could use the microphone and let the mother of the child know she was there.

This is what the elderly lady’s intensions were, but she didn’t make it to the front counter, because the mother of the child saw her taking her child by the hand. Right away, the mother became hysterical and accused the elderly lady of trying to kidnap her child!

These are the types of incidents that are most frightening for would be Good Samaritans. I hope to God, I never encounter a child in need of help, because I’d be terrified of finding myself accused of something horrible, by the mother!!

As for HUGS, I love getting them and giving them! The tighter the better! But I’m starting to wonder if I should STOP, because some people are making HUGS out to be something perverted!

What has this world come to?!!

Playgirl's Quote For This Day:

"Hugs are part of everybody life for me. I’ll hug
all sorts of people - I don’t worry about it
looking unmanly or whatever. I think physical
human contact is one of the things that makes
living worthwhile."
- A.J. McLean

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del Emperador Carlos V

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Nov. 21st, 2006 05:59 pm (UTC)
We are all crazy...thats all I can coe up with...we are all nuts. You just gotta try and live your life and ignore the idiots...
Nov. 21st, 2006 06:13 pm (UTC)
Yes we are, and getting crazier by the day!

It's gotten to the point where we, as strangers, can't even express to a mother, that her child is so cute, for fear she won't assume we're stalkers!!
(no subject) - kwiksotik - Nov. 21st, 2006 06:22 pm (UTC) - Expand
Nov. 21st, 2006 06:33 pm (UTC)
I've never really been comfortable with hugging. Stop it immediately.
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Nov. 21st, 2006 06:57 pm (UTC)
Sorry if this seems slightly off topic.
Yes, this whole thing seems a bit disconcerting to me. For me, it also extends to my photography. I have tried in the past to take pictures of children, but have been told no so may times... I don't know, maybe it's me. I mean, I could change my appearance, but does that mean anything, really? Not all evil guys and gals look like hippies or freaks of Gawth or whatever other subversive thing one's into.

(You'd be surprised... some of the more 'subversive' folks I know personally are more trusting than those that seem perfectly normal. Just my experience.)

It might be because I still like using film more than digital, which means there's no way to preview a shot... but I have offered to give potential subjects the chance to swap e-mails, so I can send them a scanned, printable JPEG file. Some have asked for my phone number but... I have rights too. It's not like I'm asking for theirs.

It's as if people don't trust each other anymore. There's a deeper cause to this problem, really.
Nov. 21st, 2006 07:01 pm (UTC)
Re: Sorry if this seems slightly off topic.
"It might be because I still like using film more than digital, which means there's no way to preview a shot"

Dooh! Oops... you can do that with film cameras, like the one in my icon, Just look thru the finder before you shoot. My bad. I need lunchie. :P

Re: Sorry if this seems slightly off topic. - playgirl - Nov. 22nd, 2006 02:56 pm (UTC) - Expand
Nov. 21st, 2006 08:13 pm (UTC)
i'm not saying i agree with the mother's reaction but i can understand it. in this day and age, you never know and the truth is predators come in all forms.

obviously this elderly woman was only trying to do the right thing but i can understand (again i don't agree with it) that a mother's initial and natural reaction is to protect her young.

in any event, the entire situation is really sad.
Nov. 22nd, 2006 12:12 am (UTC)
Yes, I can understand, but they should also try to use good judgment before they go accusing people of such horrible things, as the little old lady was.

Not only has it become sad, but dangerous, also. If a little child is lost, how in the world is a person expected to try and help, when their help will be taken as if the person is a child kidnapper or molester?

If the woman, who lost her kid, should be the one to be horse whipped, after all, she sure wasn't keeping an eye on her kid to begin with.
(no subject) - neo_prodigy - Nov. 22nd, 2006 12:17 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - playgirl - Nov. 22nd, 2006 03:00 pm (UTC) - Expand
Nov. 21st, 2006 08:35 pm (UTC)
daily quote
I like the daily quote. Me, I am a huggy guy. I hug the kids at church, people at work and just about anyone that I care about.
I have wondered myself about hugging kids at church if maybe people think that I have some perverted intensions.
Get a grip people!!
Nov. 22nd, 2006 12:05 am (UTC)
Re: daily quote
It really is frightening how gestures that use to be so endearing, are now taboo.

The little old lady I wrote about, almost had a heart attack when that ridiculous woman accused here of kidnapping.

I've always been a hugger, because I loved to be hugged, but I've started to give second thoughts about who I can freely hug, and who I shouldn't.

I honestly recommend you not hug those children at church anymore, because there are not only parents, but the kids themselves who are freaking insane! God forbid one of them accuses you of something. I'm a girl, and I'm afraid to give hugs to children! Hugging them has become a very dangerous thing, not for them, but for us!

You can hug me all you want! :o)
Nov. 21st, 2006 08:37 pm (UTC)
my lj
I would appreciate your insight from my most recent post to my journal.
Nov. 21st, 2006 11:50 pm (UTC)
Re: my lj
I'm on my way!
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Nov. 22nd, 2006 12:27 am (UTC)
I believe that there are many more good people than bad ones. The bad ones are the ones who have made this world a mess.

When it comes to children, the bad ones and society has made it that adults are afraid to help them when they need help. Afraid, because everything could be turned around, where the person who is trying to help, will end up with his life ruined for life.

I'll give you another TRUE example. This time it happened at Wal-Mart. A male friend of mine, told me that he had gone to Wal-Mart to shop, when he saw this little boy, as he was walking down the isle, ruffled his hair with hand, saying HI THERE KIDO, as he walked past him. As my friend kept on walking, the kid yelled out, "Mom, that man touched me!" My friend says he could not believe it, and just kept walking away as fast as he could!

So what has all this come to? It's come to the fact that men and women, especially men, must just turn the opposite way, when a child needs help! How tragic, but it's better than being falsely accused and ending up in the front pages of the newspapers, and going broke, paying an attorney!
Nov. 21st, 2006 11:06 pm (UTC)
I like hugs & hugs & hugs & hugs!!!

Nov. 22nd, 2006 12:30 am (UTC)
I like hugs, too! I like hugs and giving hugs more than anything in the world! :o)
HUGS - moon_shine - Nov. 22nd, 2006 05:55 am (UTC) - Expand
Re: HUGS - playgirl - Nov. 22nd, 2006 02:26 pm (UTC) - Expand
Re: HUGS - moon_shine - Nov. 23rd, 2006 08:21 am (UTC) - Expand
Nov. 22nd, 2006 02:54 am (UTC)
can't tell you how many times I have wanted to hug students and didn't, esp a male elem teacher......people are constantly judging you....women can get away with it more.
Nov. 22nd, 2006 02:49 pm (UTC)
Have we always so suspicious over this innocent little loving gesture, or did we recently begin to become little robots? I wonder.

How pathetic that it has come to this, where a little boy is thought to be a pervert because he has a crush on his teacher and asked for a hug!
(no subject) - harley1456 - Nov. 22nd, 2006 02:54 pm (UTC) - Expand
Nov. 26th, 2006 06:43 pm (UTC)
I have you and even if we never meet or ever see each other, we have left our thumbprints in the thick, moist clay of each others lives. {{{HUGS}}}
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