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According to statistics, marriages still outnumber divorces, but the gap is closing too fast. Why is marriage becoming a failed institution so quickly?

I can't understand how two people, madly in love at first, suddenly find that they are incompatible, and totally miserable in a marriage that should never have been?

How is it possible for a couple to love each other in the beginning, only to end up hating, even despising one another? What events have caused loving relationships to completely breakdown?

Are you happily married? If so, what have you found to be the secret formula for a happy and lasting marriage?

Are you now divorced? If so, why do you feel your marriage failed?
What factors caused you or your partner to decide that you wished to no longer remain married? For those who have children, what effects did your divorce cause for them?

If you are divorced, do you wish to ever again remarry?

For those of you how have never been married, does the institution of marriage frighten you as much as it does me? Have your personal observations, or the statistics on failed marriages, frightened you away from ever taking that step?

My personal choice is to remain a confirmed Bachelorette. How many of you have decided to remain a Bachelorette? A Bachelor?

When it comes to this most important step in your life, do you feel it's best to think with your head, or think with your heart?

Could you please give me your thoughts on some of my questions?


"As long as it's LEAGAL, I can pretty much do whatever
I wish, and behave in whatever outrageous manner I
want. Why? Because I'm SINGLE, because I'm FREE,
because I'm NOT in love, and because
I'm TOTALLY independent!"
- Playgirl

"When two people decide to get a divorce,
it isn't a sign that they "don't understand"
one another, but a sign that they have,
at last, begun to."
- Helen Rowland

"A divorce is like an amputation: you
survive it, but there's less of you."
- Margaret Atwood

"Women marry men hoping they will change.
Men marry women hoping they will not.
So each is inevitably disappointed."
- Albert Einstein


Jun. 15th, 2006 02:20 am (UTC)
That little piece of paper is the difference between your significant other (SO) making decisions about your care and your, possibly estranged, parents or siblings.

That little piece of paper could be the difference between being in a vegetative state and being allowed to die of starvation or thirst.

That little piece of paper can be the difference between you getting the house you are living in and your SO relatives getting it, or forcing it's sale.

That little piece of paper could determine who gets to raise your kids.

That little piece of paper can be very important, especially when you can not speak for yourself.
Jun. 15th, 2006 02:30 am (UTC)
That lil'piece of paper did me none of the Above when I was hitched nor was it helpful when We divorced.

And while on topic If You need that piece of papper bvassically to screw your "S.O" over it doesn't make you any freaking better as a Individual.
Jun. 16th, 2006 05:44 pm (UTC)
I think you may have misinterpeted my point. It is not that one is screwing over one's SO.

I have seen several stories where a couple in a long term relationship thought as you do and thought that their families were fine with things. Then, one of the couple died, and that person's family screwed the other person out of everything. House, car, furniture, etc. The family took everything that was in the dead person's name and the SO couldn't do anything about it because they were not married, and the dead person didn't leave a will.

Not too long ago, a woman was living with her long term boyfriend. She had kids from a previous relationship. Her boyfriend was the only "dad" her kids had ever known. She died in car wreck. And, her parents, who hadn't seen the kids in years, took the kids to live out of state and got a restraining order against the guy because they didn't like him.

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